Life with a toddler is joyful, hilarious, and full of energy—but let’s be honest, it can also be chaotic and overwhelming. Between nappy changes, snack negotiations, and chasing your little one around the house, it can feel like there’s no room left in the day for you. But here’s the thing: you matter too.
You don’t need hours of solitude to feel refreshed. Sometimes, even 10 minutes of intentional “me time” can make a huge difference. Here are some ways to carve out that much-needed time to recharge, without the guilt.
1. Redefine What “Me Time” Looks Like
Before becoming a parent, "me time" might have looked like a day at the spa or a three-hour brunch with friends. Now? It might be a quiet cup of tea before the house wakes up, a 10-minute yoga flow, or listening to your favourite podcast while folding laundry. Small moments count. Don’t wait for a full day off to take care of yourself.
2. Use Nap Time (Sometimes) for Yourself
Yes, there’s always something to clean or organise—but try to give yourself permission to rest during at least one nap time a week. Read a book, close your eyes, or do something that brings you joy instead of productivity.
3. Tag-Team When You Can
If you have a partner, work out shifts—even short ones. While one person handles the bath and bedtime routine, the other gets some solo time. If you’re solo parenting, ask a trusted friend or family member to watch your little one for 30 minutes now and then. Asking for help is not weakness—it’s wisdom.
4. Create Parallel Play Opportunities
You don’t always need to entertain your toddler 24/7. Set up independent play with simple toys, sensory bins, or crayons next to you while you do something calming—maybe journaling, knitting, or enjoying a podcast. You’re together, but still getting a mental breather.
5. Schedule It (Yes, Actually)
Put “me time” in the diary like any other appointment. It might be a Sunday morning walk, a mid-week bath, or a 20-minute catch-up with a friend over FaceTime. Making it official helps it happen.
6. Silence the Guilt
You deserve to feel like a whole person, not just “mum” or “dad.” Taking care of yourself doesn’t take away from your child—it gives them a happier, more patient, more present version of you. You’re setting a powerful example: that everyone in the family matters, including you.
A Final Word
Parenting a toddler is one of the most intense and beautiful seasons of life. It’s okay if you don’t feel balanced every day. But remember: your needs are not an afterthought. You are still you—and your well-being deserves space to breathe.
Even in the wildest seasons, you’re allowed to pause, breathe, and take care of yourself. That, too, is part of raising a healthy, happy child.
